sedikit jadi panjang

a conversation occurs between me and my best buddy today. roolingstone: sa, menurutlu apa yang jadi tujuan hidup seorang lelaki? gue: hmmm, ga tau ya. kalu gue cowo mungkin gue tau! roolingstone: secara elu bakal punya suami cowo (someday.. tambahnya dengan ketawa ketiwi), nih gue kasih tau. ada tiga hal yang penting dalam kehidupan seorang lelaki: harta, wanita dan kuasa. gue: makasih atas pemberitahuannya. singkat, padat dan mungkin ga penting ya pembicaraannya. tapi obrolan singkat itu bikin gue berpikir kalu harta wanita dan kuasa itu 3 hal penting bagi seorang lelaki, apa sih yang penting bagi seorang wanita?

wanita? except you are mellissa ethridge or rosie o'donnel, kayanya ini bukan jawabannya ya!

kuasa? bisa jadi. untuk beberapa wanita yang menjadi sangat dominan dalam hubungannya dengan semua orang, kuasa menjadi salah satu hal yang sangat penting. misalnya buat temen gue yang bener-bener mendominasi hubungannya dengan sang pacar (huahaha, yes i mean you) atau bos cewe' gue yang kayaknya ngga mau kalau di argue sama anak buahnya atau rekan sekantor gue yang kalu ngomong selalu berasa dia lagi ngobrol sama anak buahnya (which we are all so not!) atau mantan temen gue (yang terpaksa gue jadiin mantan karena kelakuannya ini) yang ngga pernah mau kalah dan salah kalu ngobrol sama orang lain. in my personal opinion, perasaan mereka yang membuat orang lain harus seakan dibawah kendali mereka adalah suatu domino effect dari perasaan ketidakyakinan mereka terhadap diri sendiri. mungkin one day in their past, there was a time waktu mereka berasa so low and there's nothing they could do about it. so when they got the change they will reverse the situation just for their own ego. harta? well kalu yang ini gue yakin jadi bagian hidup 100% wanita didunia. siapa sih yang ga butuh uang? yang membedakan cuma kadar kematrealistisan yang membuat sejauh mana si harta bisa mendorong si wanita untuk bertindak. i've seen a zillion things woman will do for money sampai gue ngga bisa punya opini pribadi tentang mana yang lebih ancur. gue misalnya, untuk orang2 disekitar gue sih gue ngga peduli mereka punya harta atau ngga selama ngga ngerugiin gue sih gue bakal temenan sama mereka. tapi gue memilih untuk ngga pacaran ajah dari pada punya pasangan yang ngga bisa mencukupi kehidupan gue, toch gue cukup secara materi dan bisa cari kebutuhan materi gue sendiri kan? gue pernah kagum sama sahabat gue yang ngga pernah menjadikan harta sebagai pertimbangan dalam menjalani hubungannya sama orang lain termasuk dalam memilih pacar. milih orang yang sesuai aja udah susah tanpa mempertimbangkan harta duniawi katanya. bener juga seeeh. tapi toch tetep aja jadi masalah ketika uang yang dia hasilkan dengan susah payah seakan dengan bebas menjadi milik berdua atas nama 'pacaran'? seseorang yang gue kenal punya pacar yang berasal dari keluarga sederhana. dia pun begitu. tapi sebagai wanita yang notabene cantik, wajar donk kalau dia memiliki kebutuhan akan barang-barang bagus? what she's doing in the name of need yang sedikit menggangguku. she's keeping her boyfriend, perhaps in the name of love, and have an affair with richer guy(s) who can fulfill her needs. man that's bad, right? or has it become so casual for i have seen not only that girl does it but also several others. nah jenis orang berikutnya ini yang membuat gue ngga bisa mutusin which one is worse. tidak seperti wanita yang mempunyai pacar dalam nama cinta dan memiliki affair dengan pria kaya dalam nama 'kebutuhan', wanita-wanita ini memang tidak memiliki affair dengan pria lain yang lebih kaya. but they marry them. they marry someone who in the eyes of a normal person is way below their league. wanita-wanita ini sebenarnya bisa mendapatkan lelaki yang lebih baik dengan wajah yang lebih indah, dengan hati yang jauuuuuuh lebih baik, dengan cinta yang lebih besar, dengan jaminan kebahagiaan yang lebih besar dan banyak hal lain yang lebih..lebih..lebih.. kecuali lebih kaya! tapi mereka lebih memilih lelaki yang bisa memberikan harta. ataukah harta hanyalah sesuatu yang mereka terima dalam nama cinta yang mereka dapatkan karena kebahagiaan akan materi yang dibutuhkan? bull. call me cynical atau mungkin ini benar jika saja rumah tangga mereka pada akhirnya tidak mengalami kebimbangan. tapi kalau mereka sampai menutup mata pada hal-hal yang harusnya menjadi pertimbangan besar sebelum menikah, well you cannot call this marriage in the name of happiness provided by money that will fullfill your every needs. you simply call this money-driven marriage, right? yang jelas kita ber-4 memang menjadikan harta sebagai bagian penting dari mereka. penting sampai ngga memilih untuk punya pasangan, penting sampai merelakan hasil kerja kerasnya dirampas, penting sampai menjalin affair atas nama cinta dan penting sampai menikah dalam nama 'materi'. so, what else is matter?

me, vacation and jobless life.

Will proudly say that this vacation doesnt sucked at all! Right before it's happening, I have though that this will be one shit of a vacation. Being turned down to spend it abroad, running out of ticket for domestic flight, supposedly this will be a boring vacation. but somewhere between Jakarta's malls, shopping center, hangout places and beauty saloon, i found myself at the almost last day of a week vacation. It brought me somewhere though.. Should I extend it to a jobless life?? A question occured.

beware oh smart ones!

for those who are often called as the smart ones: becareful not to think that you have all in life. there's the wolf who are waiting outside your fence, ready to catch you just when your eyes rested. proud you are to be called genious, you might only use your brains to figure out the science in life. you may count math, you may write poems, you may play music but often you have appeal. often you use your wits to write up strategy to make use them who are around you. never you use your intellegence to cover what you dont have and brag those you have a little of. becareful, because they do in all aspects. others might think they are lucky, but the truth is it's a well-planned strategy. they might not be called brainy or little geniouses. but they sure know how to use every situation around them to their advantage. cover their minuses and blow up things they have so little of. so dont brag if you have intellegence for science. please be hold to those who are clever with state of affairs. they could take form of a beautiful face, a sexy outfits, a sweet talk, a reversed talk, a listening ears, a brag mouth, cheap soul or a pretending sense. it's all out there. and it could defeat your intellegence with a snap. beware my friends!

• a posting made when i witness with my own eyes intellegence are being defeated by sweet talk, beautiful face, cheap soul and pretending sense!

ps: gosh, i love this blog. i can write down thoughts without being judge...

Penting dan Ga Penting

Belakangan ini gue sering banget denger orang ngomong "ga penting banget deh!". Frequent as it is, gue juga jadi sering ikutan ngomong kalimat itu. But then it got me thingking "Sebenernya apa sih yang penting? Dan yang mana juga yang ga penting banget itu?" tingkat kepentingan bagi setiap orang itu dijamin pasti berbeda. An egosentric sons of a bitch will think that everything that has to do with her/his own importance is something to be put in first priority. Sementara hal lain yang perlu untuk orang lain bisa jadi prioritas nomor kesekian. Pada semua aspek dalam kehidupan kita akan mengalami hal ini. Mana yang penting dan mana yang ngga penting akan selalu beda dalam pandangan semua orang. Simply karena setiap orang adalah pribadi berbeda, yang punya cita dan rasa yang berbeda yang mengakibatkan mereka memiliki tingkat kepentingan yang berbeda pula. Trus, segimana pentingnya sih gue bikin tulisan ini? Buahaha, penting banget buat gue soalnya lagi males banget kerja dan perlu mengalihkan pikiran gue dari sesuatu yang namanya pekerjaan kantor sebelum otak gue meledak! So, if you think ini "ga penting banget"......YA MAAP!

Creator Vs Editor

Which one is easier, being a creator or an editor? The question pops in when i'm trying to do my daily activities at the office. Most of my friend says that it is harder to do consepting, or in other words creating something than to edit it. That's why when we're trying to do letters, or proposal or anything and the boss' with their snobbish sound says "you do the draft and i will perfected it", the only thing they're saying is "you do the hard job!". Charming as it is, I cant seem to agree with saying creating is harder than editing. Sure, I have a hard time doing something from scratch, but the idea of interefering with someone else's hard work is not something easy to do either. Making changes in someone's creation which they have put up with a zillion consideration is not something I like doing. Simply just because I respect other's privacy. Now, you might think that my respect for others privacy is just a wonderful thing. Well, sometimes i feel it is my good quality. But frankly it's not always that good. Why, you are wondering. Because when I respect other's privacy I dont do it for free. I expect them to do the same thing for me. And why is that bad? Because in many times, I just want to smack he/she who critisized me. Heyyy, dont just think that I am a terrible narcist who cannot live with a fact that I could be wrong. I do can except that as human being, I am capable of making mistakes. Sometimes even the unfixable one. And I am pleased if I am critisized or corrected by those kind of mistakes. But the sad thing is, For many people (at least the one I'm familiar with), putting their nose in other's business or just changing things which are not really needed to be changed are just fun. Many times not because they want to perfected the job, but more of to show that "I am better than you", or "I can do anything because I am your superior". Its that thinking that bothers me so much. They do not critisized me, for they know for sure that I am wrong. They do not critisized me by facts that they acknowledged better then me. They just changed what I've made, creating the same piece with different languages, just to show that they have the right to. Not to make it better. Now, wouldn't it make you wanna kill someone?